Hi, I’m a guest blogger for Slick Kook this week, and as a girl with a live-in boyfriend, I have a few points to share.
Let’s dive right into it.
I’ve been living with my boyfriend for over six months now. As in any relationship, our time together has been challenging and rewarding in equal measure. We’ve learned new things about each other and have both had to make an adjustment to our lifestyles. In the beginning, he used to constantly do things that rubbed me the wrong way — things he’s learned to control after I’ve pointed them out to him. I’ll share what some of these things are, in the hopes that you gentlemen out there can gain some insight.
When I tell my boyfriend something important to me, I expect him to remember it. I don’t think that should be earth-shattering news.
Few things are as disheartening as bringing up an important subject I had talked about in the past week, only to have him draw up a blank expression. This goes both ways, of course, as I’m forgetful myself sometimes.
BUT THIS BLOG ENTRY ISN’T ABOUT ME, JIM.
Just make an effort to remember the important stuff, is all.
Ah yes, the dreaded K.
Don’t K me after I’ve said something meaningful. Don’t K me when you damn well know a K is not merited there. Don’t K me if we’re in the middle of a disagreement, because I will drive to your office and rip out your intestines in front of Susan from Accounting. Too much?
Ok, maybe, but my larger point stands.
Sending a K to your girlfriend is the quickest way to incite violence. Not from me, of course — I’m all about love and positivity.
My boyfriend used to prioritize his buddies over me — a lot. Was he just not ready to commit to me?
WaListen, I get it — dudes need to spend time with their dude bros, but you absolutely must strike a balance. I’m not your roommate, so don’t treat me like one. One of the main attractions of living together is so could spend more time with each other, no? Imagine my disappointment when he’d come from work and quickly head off to the bar with his buddies. This was a regular occurrence, not some isolated event — so you don’t think I’m some jealous weirdo or something.
I mean, I am a jealous weirdo, but I don’t want you to think that right away. Not yet.
Anyway, I’m buddies with most of his drinking buddies these days, so we all get drunk together now. He gets to live another week.
Refusing to Apologize
If you’re wrong, apologize. It’s not that difficult. Don’t let pride be your downfall.
This isn’t even strictly a relationship thing — this is sound advice for every aspect of your life. A lot of minor disagreements will blow up into full-blown arguments if you don’t learn how to apologize when you’re in the wrong.
A simple “I’m sorry” will do wonders for you. On the flip side, don’t say meaningless I’m sorries if you don’t really mean it. Don’t patronize us. We can tell when you’re lying.
I won’t go into too much detail on this one, for obvious reasons and because my mom may be reading, but I will say this much — you want to make sure that you’re keeping your girl happy in the bedroom. If sex has become a mindless routine rather than a form of connection and love, you need to sort that out.
I don’t care if you’ve been dating your girl for two months or two years, you’re way too young to be selfish and terrible at sex. Sort that out immediately.
There are videos and books that can help, you know.
Or so I’ve heard.